Many nights, the girls and I have sat around and spoke about what we want/need from men. Why we love 'em but can't live without 'em, what they do wrong and right, what they don't know how to do and why they are how they are...
This past summer, however, I was having dinner with some people and we were actually confabulating about what men want from women. The few guys that were at the table basically stated that they needed 4 main things from their wifey's, shorty's, or boo's. Jump's have been exempt from this topic. In no particular order, those four things were:
*have a goal in life and be responsible - Self explanatory.
*protect your self-image to him and in public - if your relationship is public, you are a reflection of your man - act right. I can dig this.
*be honest - whether you're in an open relationship or committed one - keep it funky, because the minute you do something opposite of what you told them you were doing, it's over ... That's funny to me, because females give way too many chances but the minute we fuck up, we're done? Hmmm...
*know when to STFU/stop complaining - also self explanatory, but my question is: what exactly constitutes a complaint?
Now I'm probably not stating these things verbatim, but in a nutshell, this is what it boiled down to.
RTRW male readers & wanderers - I wanna know what you would want from your woman (whether you have one or not). What is it you really want from us? Ladies, please chime in. Maybe your man has told you what he wants or maybe you simply wanna refute something one of the guys are saying. Either way, let's Real Talk it out...
Karrie
This past summer, however, I was having dinner with some people and we were actually confabulating about what men want from women. The few guys that were at the table basically stated that they needed 4 main things from their wifey's, shorty's, or boo's. Jump's have been exempt from this topic. In no particular order, those four things were:
*have a goal in life and be responsible - Self explanatory.
*protect your self-image to him and in public - if your relationship is public, you are a reflection of your man - act right. I can dig this.
*be honest - whether you're in an open relationship or committed one - keep it funky, because the minute you do something opposite of what you told them you were doing, it's over ... That's funny to me, because females give way too many chances but the minute we fuck up, we're done? Hmmm...
*know when to STFU/stop complaining - also self explanatory, but my question is: what exactly constitutes a complaint?
Now I'm probably not stating these things verbatim, but in a nutshell, this is what it boiled down to.
RTRW male readers & wanderers - I wanna know what you would want from your woman (whether you have one or not). What is it you really want from us? Ladies, please chime in. Maybe your man has told you what he wants or maybe you simply wanna refute something one of the guys are saying. Either way, let's Real Talk it out...
Karrie
7 comments:
I agree with all those points. It pretty much says it all, but I think I would add one more thing, which expands on the image point.
I'm not sure about all men, but I want a girl that knows how to have fun. I don't like boring, just lay there type chics. So let's add "freak in the sheets and not in the streets" as a must for men!
BTW, these points can go both ways and be translated as such for both men and women. Let's think about that!
good head is a must
i want honesty first and foremost, also want someone who represents me well in public, makes me laugh constantly and someone i can have as a best friend as well as a "boyfriend"...i also have to HAVE TO have to have time bc i am SPOILED!!!
Have an understanding with GOD first and foremost, have a degree or working towards one, a steady job or career, your own shit basically.
Good sex, don't ever bore me please.
Her support, I need that in my line of business, can ya just be there for a brotha sometimes?
If it's game night, leave me the fuck alone, when I get home I'll swim in that pussy like a water pool, you'd think you slept with Michael Phelp's by the time it's over.
If I'm hosting, come along and support or just wait til I'm done but don't blow me tf up.
I want her to stay at the crib sometimes and cook dinner, clean up from time to time, I ain't saying 24/7 but keep it neat.
Look good for me 24/7, you can have some off days but make it very few, never know when I'm ready to step out.
Have some damn class
Know how to laugh, have fun and
just be down for the cause.
AND SHE GOTTA LIKE GOOD MUSIC!
AND WANT THE FINER THINGS IN LIFE
I'm a male. I'm posting under anonymous because I dont want my girl to see this.
I have a lot of these problems with her. She doesn't know how to STFU and complains and nags 27-7. Funny shit is, these are all the things we really ask for. we dont ask for much.
she dont know how to act in public either. my friends r always telling me about her doing some crazy shit at parties.
the only prob i dont have with her is SEX. isnt that somehting, lol
i dont know what to do, what do you think i should do? it seems like you are arund some knowledgeable guys karrie, so pass on the wisdom.
by the way, great blog, keep up the good stuff ladies
thanks
fabgirlsANONYMOUS, first off, thank you for the compliment.
Through my years of being in relationships, I learned that most men DO NOT like women who constantly complain. I use to be that female who did a lot of complaining and did not know how to STFU. I then realized that this was my biggest issue because my mouth was reckless 24/7. Ultimately, I realized that this was driving my boyfriends crazy because I finally got a dose of my own medicine. I had a boyfriend that complained all the time and it drove me away.
As hard as it may be sometimes, we women must really pick our battles. Communication is definitely key but save all the mouthiness for the major stuff.
Back to ANONYMOUS...what kind of things does she do in the club? How long have you been in this relationship with her? Tell your friends to snap a picture the next time so you can put her ass on blast about her public behavior.
At the end of the day, a REAL man wants a female who knows how to have fun but still carry herself like a lady. Now, you didn't specify to what extent of crazy she gets when she goes out. However, if she is being nasty and just plain disrespectful of herself as well as you, then you need to really express your concern to her about the way she carries herself in public if the relationship is of value to you. Or you need to cut her off.
I expect the guy that I'm in a relationship with to show me respect when I'm around and also when I'm not around.
Here are some of the key things I WANT...
1) TRUST!!!
2) Honesty
3) Support
4) Has to be goal driven!!!
5) RESPECT
6) His OWN shit (Don't bother if your living with momma!! Unless your house burned down or your suffering some SEVERE hardships, I ain't hearing that "It's only temporary" shit...FOH with that BS)
Like Trucee, I do require plenty of TIME but I can be flexible...Just keep in mind, my flexibility is NOT one to take for granted so remain on your P's & Q's!!
Anonymous, I will say this to you...First, we all have to learn to choose our battles...If some of her complaints can fall on deaf ears, just walk on by like you dug everything she said!! However, if some of her issues are in your opinion not worth the arguement, bring it to light as soon as it comes out her mouth that way she knows for the future & she can never say she wasn't aware of how much it bothers you. 2)SHUT THAT "I DON'T KNOW HOW TO BEHAVE IN THE STREET" BEHAVIOUR DOWNNNNNNN & like Indie says, have the proof to back your word up (she can't deny it when there's hard core proof)....If she continues to act like some reckless hoe out on the road, the relationship needs some serious consideration...You wont be disrespecting me while on the streets, lmao.
No settling guys!! If your not pleased, speak up or forever hold your piece!!!
Miss Dior!!
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